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Hey you scumbags! Why are Americans so damn rude?

April 27, 2011

1* Are Americans becoming kinder and gentler or more rude and less civilized?

14% Kinder and gentler
69% More rude and less civilized
17% Not sure

~ from Rasmussen Reports

This is just a survey of 1000 Americans, but  think most of us would agree, our fellow Americans are more rude than ever.  Typical social mores of holding the door open for someone (hell, just women) or store clerks actually acknowledging your existence when you enter their abode have gone by the wayside.  Why is this?  Is it the degradation of society, a tangible example of Carter’s “malaise”?  Or is it the hyper-partisanization that the great uniter President Obama was supposedly to do away with?

It is in fact none of these things.  In a word, it is simply – entitlement.

How many rights do we as Americans supposedly posses?  Of course we have the big three, life, liberty and property (unless Trump and the government want to build a casino).  Then we have the Bill of Rights – speech, religion, the press, due-process, the franchise, and guns (unless you live in DC).  But what else.  If you ask Richard Trumka and the UN, we also have the right to collectively bargain.  Also the UN confers on us the right to a name, the right to a nationality and the right to hold an opinion without interference.  Oh yeah, we also have the right to health care.  If you are French, you also have the right to vacations.  What else?  If you are Jimmy McMillan, then we have the right to not pay too damn high of a rent.  If you are a new black panther party member, you have the right to intimidate whitey at voting locations with billy clubs, as per Eric Holder.  The moral of the story is, we have a butt ton of rights.

But so what?  Why should that make us a bunch of rude bastards who yell at 14 year old girls giving public speeches?  Because when you are entitled to something, you are not thankful for them.  For example, you wouldn’t be very happy if your boss withheld your paycheck until you came into his office and told him how grateful you are for his paying you, nor should you.  In that case, you are entitled to your money because you earned it.  But have we “earned” our many rights?  No, but we get them anyway.  And when you are raised thinking you have the right to other people’s money, or the right to a well-paying job, or the right to free healthcare, why should you feel grateful when someone actually gives you what you deserve.  Its yours, in fact, you should be a flaming whining little brat until you get – explains a lot don’t it?

How many “projects” are run-down crapholes where no human should actually live?  Why would someone who receives a free house treat it with such disregard?  Because they deserve it.  They are entitled to it.  Ergo, they shouldn’t feel grateful for it, nor should they show any form of that missing gratitude by protecting (or cherishing) the gifts with which society bestowed them.

In a similar vein would be the misuse of welfare funds given to poor families.  In California, over $11 million of these funds were spent in casinos.  They deserve that money, they are entitled to it, so why should they show gratitude by spending it wisely?

So when we have Wisconsin union thugs besieging the capital building in protest to the restriction on collective bargaining, we need to look at it from their perspective.  They aren’t demanding something that is undeserved.  And it has nothing to do with Wisconsin’s capability to continue to pay the high demands of its public sector unions.  What it truly is about (in the union thug’s mind) is a rightful protest against the usurpation of a right.  Would you not act the same if Obama wanted to violate the freedom of speech?  Okay, well he has already done it a few times, but you get my point.

Should we show gratitude to our soldiers?  Conservatives would vehemently exclaim in the affirmative, but progressives unfortunately exclaim just as loudly in the negative.  Why?  Because first off, soldiers are stupid for joining.  And secondly, it’s a job, they are doing what they signed up for, why should we be gracious they are doing their job?  Same with cops, firefighters and EMTs.  No matter that their jobs are freaking dangerous, and they get paid crap for doing it, they signed up for it, so why should we be gracious?

So why are Americans so damn rude?  Because we deserve everything we get.  We deserve high-speed internet.  If we don’t get it, time to be rude about it.  We deserve good customer service at a retail store, BUT…the employee also deserves a job regardless of his merits or his ability to do so, oh, and he deserves a “living-wage”, and he deserves to not be fired unless he has documented evidence of his non-performance, oh, and if he is part of a union, then he basically needs to shoot someone before he can be canned…so, who wins out?  The consumer or the employee?  We all know the answer to that, if you don’t, go visit a Wal-mart sometime.  So the employee is rude because he doesn’t have to be anything else, and he has a ton of other stuff on his mind like evil conservatives trying to take away all his rights, and the customer is rude because we aren’t getting the service we deserve (which we actually do because we pay the bills for the shop).  End result, everyone is rude as crap.

Is a waiter gracious for his tip, also known as a gratuity?  Why should he be?  Tipping is so ingrained as a necessity in our society that its included in a waiter’s compensation.  Should he be gracious?  I would say hell yeah, but for the most part they aren’t, it’s beneath them to be thankful that someone who does not actually have to tip them decided to do so.  A tip is expected.  The waiter is entitled to it.  Ergo, we are actually rude if we DON’T tip the guy who ignored us for 15 minutes after we sat down to eat.

Kids are raised to expect that whatever their behavior, it is acceptable (mine aren’t, but damn I know a lot who are).  They cuss in front of their parents, they hit each other, they act like maniacs in retail stores disrupting other patrons and destroying products – the parents just stand there and smile.  In school, kids cuss at their teachers, and the teachers big concern is to not hurt their self-esteem so they make sure to ban the red-grading pen.

Americans are becoming a bunch of spoiled brats.  But not the middle-class spoiled brat, we are more of a Paris Hilton diva.  We are learning that we, individually, are the most important people in the world, and everyone else exists to serve our desires.  Just like a diva, why should we be grateful for people who fulfill our expectations of them?  We shouldn’t, we deserve it.

Here is the truth.  Americans are more rude than ever because we are entitled to everything society is supposed to give us.  When you aren’t gracious for the gifts bestowed on you, you end up expecting, nay demanding them.  Unfortunately in the realm of “demanding rights”, vinegar works better than honey.

20 Comments leave one →
  1. April 27, 2011 10:00 pm

    I lived in Europe for 2 years and let me tell you unhelpful clerks are 10 times more numerous there than here. I lived in Paris and I found the French, overall, to be extremely nice, kind, funny, and friendly. People are probably more rude now because of cell phones and iPods but I think the Internet allows us to have more examples. One thing my European friends reflected on was that Americans are fake nice whereas Europeans are standoffish but, when a European is your friend it is sincere not like an American who asks “how are you” but they could really not care.

    • April 27, 2011 10:19 pm

      I lived in Germany for three years, I found them to be very nice people.

      • April 28, 2011 10:10 am

        Really? The Germans and I did not get a long at all. I went to Germany several times and almost everybody I interacted with was just rude. Did the French like you?

        My worst experience was in Holland. I was dating this Jewish girl and we decided to go to the Anne Frank house. It was closed that day but there was an old woman pruning rose bushes next door. When we asked her why it was closed she went off on an anti-semitic rant about the “little Jew girl” for like 10 minutes. My girlfriend and I were like… okay that’s nice have a good day.

      • April 28, 2011 11:46 am

        Dutch anti-semites…who knew?

        The only French I dealt with were of the rural variety, and they were very nice, but I think that holds true for all rural living persons. Cities have a tendency to turn people into major a-holes. Perhaps that speaks to my original point? Rural folk tend to be more independent and self-reliant, ergo they appreciate what they have more.

  2. April 28, 2011 5:46 am

    I agree, Americans are more rude than ever before but I never thought about it in this way before. I suppose you are at least partially right about the reason; when people don’t have to earn what they have they have less consern over what happens to it and this can trickle down on society as a whole.
    On a side note; it drives me crazy when I am in line at a store and the person paying the cashier doesn’t even have the courtesy to stop talking on the cell phone and engage the person that is currently helping them.

    • April 28, 2011 11:19 am

      Yeah, I love people and their attachment to their cell phones. I especially enjoy folks who have the bluetooth head thingy – its so fun to look like you are talking to yourself in public. /sarc

  3. April 28, 2011 9:32 am

    A large part of the problem is that for a long time we have been foot loose with the term “rights”. Rights are something bestowed upon us by our creator. Everything else are privileges granted us by government. People are confusing privileges with rights. Privileges are something that can be taken away at will.

  4. April 28, 2011 2:06 pm

    Good post. Yes, unfortunately we have become a nation of spoiled brats. Me me me me me!!

    We are the center of the universe. Depressing. I often wonder what can be done about it. (Perhaps parents could start doing their job and disciplining kids for bad behavior?) Nah, that’s so old-fashioned.

    • April 28, 2011 7:28 pm

      Thanks. Yeah, I blame progressivism, but it truly is the parents fault. Of course, progressivism has made a lot of families single parent, so maybe its a good mix of both, lol.

  5. April 28, 2011 9:23 pm

    Very good post. Entitlement is indeed the problem. If the parents feel entitled to a certain amount of security, of quality of life, then it’s natural for their children to feel the same. Only even worse.

    That sense of entitlement will naturally lead to a sense of self-importance, to a lack of awareness of others. I notice this fact when the door slams in front of me, b/c the adult in front didn’t look behind him before he proceeded.

    Even more insidious than the entitled, are the victims. Many people who don’t feel entitled to government assistance or any standard of living, still feel entitled to a certain special status: victimhood. Maybe b/c they are a certain race, or a certain sex, or b/c they are single parents, or military, or blue collar, or nonprofit, or whatever. They think, well I don’t have any special privilege. That should entitle me to a special privilege!

    I might be rambling here. But my point is, folks are getting mighty picky, about some mighty little things. I’ve seen it. A lot.

    cheers, friend.


    • April 30, 2011 9:32 am

      Excellent point. A person is a victim if they are not able to claim they are victims. Very profound. In a society based on victimhood, he who can not claim to be a victim is truly the only victim left.

  6. April 28, 2011 10:08 pm

    That is an interesting take. I never really thought of that fully. When people are entitled, they do demand things, and do not appreciate what they get or have. It’s an extension of the welfare mentality, and we all know how well that’s worked out.

    • April 30, 2011 9:33 am

      Yeah, its worked out so well, we should double down…wait, that’s not right. =(

  7. April 29, 2011 8:36 am

    A return to the concept of ‘the Duel’ would bring about an immediate improvement in civility. Without consequences, people can afford to be rude.

    • April 30, 2011 9:35 am

      The pc-ification of our society is obviously the other main reason behind our rudeness, amazing how the more tolerant we become the less polite we become. Maybe the left’s concept of tolerance ain’t all its cracked up to be.

  8. April 29, 2011 4:52 pm

    Yes, Americans today — in all their disgusting rudeness — have been taught to be that way, if not directly taught then taught by default. A lot of the blame goes to our leftist-spouting educational system.

    In our homeschool group, rudeness is not tolerated, and our code of conduct so states. I may not get paid much as the group’s teacher, but all the students are well behaved and polite.

    • April 30, 2011 9:36 am

      Excellent. How many kids do you teach? I never heard of homeshooling groups, how does that work?

  9. April 30, 2011 5:42 pm

    I don’t find Americans all that rude. I’m not talking about smart ass remarks and intimidating barristas (do I really need to get my coffee from somebody intimidating?) just basic manners. In Eastern Europe words “excuse me” pretty much don’t exist, and neither does the notion of personal space. Israelis don’t have an “inside voice”. In France and Italy they’ll stare at you.

    • May 1, 2011 9:00 am

      Hmm, I would have to say personal space issues and “inside voice” stuff is more a social standard, than rude per se. Just like Eastern European men who hold hands in public, one could say Americans are unfriendly because us men don’t do the same here. Maybe the moral of the story is, we are all damn rude, lol.

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